On the Lunar Eclipse, April 14, 2014, at 1:20 a.m., while looking through the telescope, Billy proposed marriage. I was delighted and surprised, but not really surprised, as I knew I had wanted to be with Billy for the duration of our lives for a long time. In New Mexico, it is legal for gay people to get married, so on May 25, 2014, before departing on another long cross-country journey to visit friends and family, we had our intimate ceremony. It was held on Maxwell von Raven’s land in New Mexico, amongst the pinon pines, with Liz Herron as our lovely officiant and our wonderful neighbors Tony and Eden as witnesses. Billy’s sister Shannon was there as well, which was very special, and helped me to feel the love and support of all of our family and friends emanating through her presence. The following was read at our wedding:
Kahlil Gibran’s poem On Marriage, from The Prophet:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of Spirit.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness.
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow
Not in each other’s shadow.
When we met, I knew then
We were soul mates before we were born.
How many lifetimes have we been together
Or been kept apart?
You wrote to me once,
Of only wanting to lead me
Home to myself,
I knew then
We would be together
Once more we will walk together
Healing and opening our hearts along the way.
Billy, you have always been born
Overflowing with love, over many lives.
It is a great gift.
But the greatest gift you offer us all
Is the present reminder
That we are all born overflowing with this love.
This spring, coming up from the Earth, the dirt,
The roots, our feet, from the creatures and the
You help us feel it, just by being.
This is all we are meant to do…feel this love.
I’m honored, committed, thrilled, trusting,
Excited and curious,
To wondrously walk this path with you.
Keep holding my hand and I will hold yours,
Through all the woods of each life.
May our love bring us home to ourselves
And may it spread outward like a ripple on the lake,
So that all we do is the song of this love.
May we wake up singing this song
And fall asleep dreaming this song.
We were born with this song in our hearts,
For it is as old as the first star.
We will die with this song in our hearts,
For with you I remember that between us
Is that hollow place
That creates the space for this song to sound.
And with you I remember that life itself
Is love made manifest,
Water & light joined,
And all that is, every vein of an hour,
Is the joy of this song.
The harmonies our hearts weave
Now that they have cast off
Our fear & shame
Is the fugue of dawn
We have wept to behold
In our darkest of nights.
And now we are free
To take wing with the birds
For as long as breath
Gives us voice.
I take you to be my partner in life, my constant friend, and my love from this day forward. In the presence of the Great Spirit and the ancient spirits of this land, and with the love of our family and all our transformations, so that our love may guide us to deeper presence. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your journey, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for all time. As I give you my hand to hold, I offer you my life to share. What may come I will always be there.
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth.
I now pronounce you partners in life and love. Now you may kiss your legally wedded spouse! Now let us raise our voices in celebration and blessing of this great union and this special day!